I'm a techie girl. I studied IT in college and University.
I love technology and all the gadgets.
So, when I heard the term 'buffering' for the first time in the coaching world, I was confused.
I learned this concept of buffering with my mentor Brooke Castillo, and it was mind-blowing for me.
Let me explain...
Buffering is something we do to keep us from experiencing our lives.
We don’t want to face the truth of our lives because we don’t want to experience any type of negative emotion.
We feel entitled to feel happy and pleasure all of the time. Part of the reason for this is that we are constantly bombarded with ways to feel pleasure.
● You should go eat something.
● You should go buy something.
● You should go drink something.
We think that feeling negative emotions means there is something wrong with us, so we buffer to avoid that negative emotion.
Buffering is using false pleasures, so we can feel good all the time.
As I am The Emotional Eating Coach, I will link overeating and food to that, but we can buffer with anything (alcohol, drugs, scrolling on Facebook, Instagram, binging on Netflix, porn, procrastination, playing games, etc).
Not only do we want sugary/processed food for the pleasure we feel, but we see them as almost as important as survival.
They’re so important to us because they have tricked our brains into thinking that pleasure, the dopamine hit, is the most important thing.
It becomes a perpetual issue in our lives because pleasure wants us to beget more pleasure.
The more we eat, the more we eat and the more we want to eat.
Then we feel entitled to have pleasure all of the time.
We feel that we can always escape our negative emotion.
We can always feel pleasure because it’s so immediately available in so many ways.
Then we're emotional eating all the time in order to feel better all the time.
There's no upsides to buffering. We feel instant and temporary pleasure, but that brings us negative outcomes.
Usually is weight gain, low energy, digestive problems, anxiety, insomnia, pain, headaches, etc...
We procrastinate our dreams and goals when we're buffering.
Buffering only delays you to get what you want.
Because the price to reach your goals and dreams is discomfort, is feeling negative emotions.
So, how can we stop buffering?
In a simple, but no easy step...
Be willing to feel negative emotion, any emotion.
Know that life is 50% good and 50% bad.
It's ok to feel bad sometimes, that doesn't mean something went wrong. It means you're human and living the life of 50/50 like everybody else.
It's ok not to be ok, and be willing to feel it.
We don't need to eat our way to avoid negative emotions.
Let's experience life.
We only have one, so have real pleasure. Avoid buffering!
If you resonate with this post and would like some help in how to stop buffering and finally start achieving your dreams and goals, I would like to invite you for a free consult call with me.
On this call, we will talk about where you are and what you want to achieve for yourself. You will have a clear picture of what is holding you back and what you need to do to turn this around and start having results. I'm committed to your transformation on this call.
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